I was doing a radio show last night, and the topic was gay marriage, along with a touch of Cher, People We Hate, and Oprah. It was a gay radio show. Color me surprised. I had a great time, until we began talking about a few same sex couples who are flying to San Fran and marrying legally after being only friends. Their marriage is a sham. They're not in love, they never were in love and they have no plans to settle down. They're doing it for "The Cause."

We Must Keep Our Wits, Folks! I can't stress this enough. The world already thinks the Transgendered community has lost their collective minds, and the other half of the world wants us dead. Your average American thinks being Gay is a choice, and they don't understand why on earth this country should allow promiscuous people to spread their dirty lifestyle all over the sacred act of marriage. How in the world are we to get anywhere if people begin making a mockery of marriage NOW?! I just have this vision of bubble headed gay people running willy nilly down the street waving marriage certificates in straight people's faces and cackling like Joan Crawford at a cocktail party. Although however amusing that may be, I have to say, this isn't a game. What those people are doing is irresponsible and stereotypical. Don't feed the public's idea of what Gay Marriage would be, ADD to it.

I'm not saying we shouldn't be radical. I'm not saying we shouldn't march. I'm not saying we shouldn't follow our convictions. I am saying a marriage is a trust and a lifelong commitment that (hopefully) is made between two consenting adults that are (even more hopefully) in love with each other. It's not a board game that you can win by rearrangeing the rules. What would have happened to the Black movement if mixed marriages were arranged by people who had no history with each other, for the sake of show? Would the movement have been taken any more seriously? I doubt it.

I've said it before, and I'll say it again: This is not about the act of marriage, this is about Civil Rights.

I applaud wholeheartedly what's been done around the country. I have every reason to believe the United States will smarten up, and in no way think this "amendment" (if that's what you call it) will pass.......at all. What I don't believe, is that pretending to be in love and laughing in the face of what I take very seriously in my life, is not going to get us anywhere. If you want to help "The Cause": March, Carry a sign, Help a couple you know pay for their plane tickets, Write letters, Sound off, but I beg you, don't throw everything we're working for out the window by using a piece of paper as an act of vengeance. That's just plain stupid.

And quite frankly, a waste of everyone's time.